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Bring greater satisfaction to your relationship in every way--emotionally, spiritually, and physically--whether you're preparing for your honeymoon or are empty nesters looking for a new spark.

Are you wondering if there's more to your sex life than the status quo? Or maybe you have questions about your upcoming marriage that aren't exactly appropriate for the rehearsal dinner? This edition of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex from tell-it-like-it-is blogger and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire has been completely updated and expanded to include new research from surveys of more than twenty-five thousand people. With humor, stories, and highly practical ideas, Sheila helps you:

See how God intends sex to unite couples physically, emotionally, and spiritually--and how to overcome roadblocks in each areaUnderstand more about your two bodies and how they were meant to go togetherFind healing from past sexual experiences, sexual trauma, or pornography addictionFigure out the missing piece in your sex life that often makes pleasure out of reachLearn how to help your husband give you greater pleasure than ever beforeEmbrace sex with freedom, rather than viewing it with shame or embarrassment

Sheila's content and style will appeal to:

Newly engaged couples who want to start their marriage out rightMarried couples who wonder if sex will ever become what they'd hoped it would beFollowers of Sheila's marriage blog and bestselling booksPastors and counselors seeking a resource for helping engaged and married couples

Read The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex as your husband learns more about you in The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Clothing optional.

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About the Book
The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex respects men and their desires. Sheila and Keith’s words guide men to hold their spouse’s desires and drives with care, understanding that her pleasure and response is the key to great sex long term. The totally revamped Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex helps women embrace themselves; understand why pleasure can be elusive—and how to overcome those roadblocks; and reclaim the pleasure and passion God meant for them.

ASIN ‏ : ‎ 0310364752
Publisher ‏ : ‎ Zondervan; Expanded edition (March 15, 2022)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 272 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0274833344
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0310364757
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.47 x 0.68 x 8.39 inches
Reviewer: MMM
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
Title: Finally! A TRULY Biblical sexual ethic and accurate information, integrated
Review: This is THE book the Christian world has desperately needed!In The Great Sex Rescue, the extensive and scientifically excellent research done by Gregoire and her team was introduced, revealing what has gone so wrong in the messaging coming out of evangelical culture regarding sex and marriage in the last several decades. Too much that has been presented and accepted as “biblical” and even “scientific”, in short, is neither, and it has wrought much damage.In The Good Girl’s Guide, she lays out a healthy, factual, wholistic biblical foundation that can be a redeemed path OUT of that damage, into the amazing mutually intimate and pleasurable experience sex was intended to be. Here's hoping younger women will now absorb THIS instead and avoid the whole mess from the beginning! (Oh, how I wish a book like this had been available when I was first married over 25 years ago!) So much respect for the author’s integrity and care, too, for insisting that this book be updated to be even more sound and careful in its advice, reflective of everything that has been learned.This book clearly provides basic information (simple definitions of terms, for example), making it appropriate even for the most uninformed virgin. But it really is for everyone, whether starting fresh, digging out of distortions and damage, doing ok but maybe still experiencing the hidden weight of old messages, or doing genuinely fantastic and wanting an excellent resource to help others develop their own unique version of fantastic.Just a couple of reasons I loved this book:1. It is the only book that genuinely treats sex wholistically, as God clearly designed it (according to both scripture and physical design): to be mutual, intimate, and mutually pleasurable. Yes, female pleasure matters, and there is nothing wrong with God’s design of women!At most, our distorted and decidedly male-centric evangelical treatment of sex tends to refer to women's pleasure indirectly, and it is just presumed (after all, men generally reach orgasm close to 100% of the time during sex, so of course women do, too… right? Research shows: not even close!), therefore all that matters is that sex is being had frequently… right? And if she doesn’t seem to want it, she is at fault or there’s a problem with her… right? Also no, no and no. Even at very best, if a Christian source says that a man should make sure his wife feels good, too, if she does not, the conclusion is quickly drawn that the issue is all hers.What a relief to step back into a wholistic view and see the affirmation:You were meant to feel pleasure (hello, clitoris and the capacity for multiple orgasms!). Your pleasure matters just as much as his. You are not broken. You do not take “too long.” God’s physical design shows that you are meant to be treated with extra attention in this special, sexual relationship.2. Finally, after decades in evangelical spaces, this book laid a wholistic foundation for me to finally comprehend how every aspect of sex (yes, “hot” sex!) really can be fully, unreservedly holy, integrated with God at the center. God very much fits right there in your spiciest thoughts and acts.3. It is not specifically prescriptive but, rather, provides a framework for how to think about what’s good and what’s not as you and your husband explore your own totally unique and intimate relationship.4. The book does not shy away from any intimate topic! Yet everything is presented in a clear, straightforward, and factual way that is actually warm and personable, not clinical, yet also not creepy, graphic and intentionally titilating.Highly recommend!P.S. Based on husband’s feedback, the men’s version of this book is also excellent! In particular, he felt incredibly freed to realize that natural noticing and attraction are NOT the same as lusting (which involves feeling entitled to possess and use someone for your pleasure, as if they are an object). The way the two have been conflated by evangelical culture, so much inappropriate shame had been heaped on him. The book freed him to comprehend a wholistic, integrated view of sex, too. Highly recommend it, too!

Reviewer: potatofisher
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
Title: Married? Having sex? Read this!
Review: I would recommend this book for any engaged woman (and I might suggest that she start with the appendix about the honeymoon) as a great primer about what healthy sexuality should look like in marriage. I would also recommend it to already-married women, though! Even if you didn't grow up with toxic teachings or unwanted baggage, the culture we are submersed in does not often treat sex in a healthy and holistic way, and it is easy to fall into lazy or bad habits and forget everything that sex is supposed to be. This book is an excellent reminder; it is easy to read, immensely informative, and brimming with hope.The first section of the book is about the physical aspect of sex, and it starts with the very basics: what the different parts of the genitalia are named and how they work. It then includes a thorough discussion of the pros and cons of different birth control options and moves onto examining the arousal cycle and how it can differ between men and women. There is a detailed discussion of different foreplay techniques and a wealth of tips on how to figure out orgasm. What I appreciated most about this section is that it was never "gross." While the tone of the book is largely conversational and the material can be awkward at times, scientific terms are used in the descriptions and good points were made without veering into unwelcome amounts of detail or prompting bizarre mental pictures.The second section of the book covers spiritual intimacy, or how sex is meant to connect us to our spouse on a deep and spiritual level, and how it is supposed to be about making love, not just having intercourse. It begins by addressing the most common barriers to spiritual intimacy in most marriages, including how to deal with porn use by either you or your husband. The next chapter moves into the difficulty that some Christians have with seeing sex as holy--as something ordained and celebrated by God--and transitions from there into a healthy discussion about consent and drawing appropriate boundaries around which sexual activities you and your spouse participate in. I really loved the guidelines for deciding boundaries in the bedroom--they are clear, simple, and spot-on.The third section covers relational intimacy, or the need for friendship and fun between spouses. This section was just fun to read and focuses on finding common hobbies and exploring each other's interests to grow your friendship. The most useful part, however, was the discussion of how different life stages can strain your marital friendship and your sex life, combined with advice for how to move through those stages with your intimacy intact.The final section of the book discusses how to work through different difficulties in his or her sexual performance (erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation for him, vaginismus and pregnancy for her, low libido and weight issues for both). A chapter on understanding and navigating libido differences follows, followed by probably my favorite chapter, called Hungering for Each Other, which compared sex to a meal at a five-star restaurant to make several memorable points about cultivating a great sex life. The book ends with an appendix about how to plan for and approach sex on the honeymoon to give you the best chance of success, regardless of whether you are a virgin or not.The author described this book is a sort of companion to The Great Sex Rescue, and I think I agree with that. TGSR is all about rooting out toxic teachings and beliefs that can wreck your sex life, and this book is all about building healthy beliefs from the ground up. If you were raised in purity culture or have heard and absorbed untrue and harmful teachings about sex, I would encourage you to pick up TGSR first. (Sometimes you need to tear down the old before you can build anew.) However, if you are lucky enough to have escaped that unwanted baggage, dive into this book! I so, so wish I had read this when I was engaged. It clearly spells out everything I've spent almost a decade learning and catching up on now.

Reviewer: K Kirsch
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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Review: I read the first edition of The Good Girl’s Guide right after I got married in 2014. I found it helpful and really liked it at the time. After reading this updated version, I like it even more. I love how Sheila added more content for couples who don’t fit in the “he’s high drive/she’s low drive” norm. There’s not much out there for those couples, and most resources don’t even acknowledge that those couples exist.This is a very thorough book, going through the physical mechanics of sex, and then into the emotional and spiritual sides and how they all work together.This book is safe for anyone to read because, unlike any other Christian marriage book I’ve read, there are disclaimers all through the book (not just one small statement hidden in the front or back) encouraging those in unsafe abusive relationships to seek help. While this is obviously best for engaged/married women, it could also be a good resource for older teens who are curious like I was. I definitely wish it had been on my mom’s bookshelf when I was reading all her relationship books and magazines. This is much more wholesome content than Women’s Health and the covers of Cosmopolitan!I’ll be gifting this with its partner, Good Guys Guide, as wedding gifts from now on and will be recommending both to every married couple I know!

Reviewer: Rachel Campbell
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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Review: What a helpful, informative, biblical book. Wish I'd read it years ago. Will certainly buy a copy for my daughters if and when they get engaged. Thank you Sheila for your insights, research and for you campaign overall. Thanks also for putting up with so much ill-informed hassle over the years

Reviewer: Andrea
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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Review: Very good book --- well rounded, and covers all the basics and more in a healthy and confidence inspiring way. Presents sex as a beautiful gift that is meant to be the culmination of a relationship that is emotionally safe/close, and spiritually connected. Add the physicality, and you have the recipe for fireworks. Wish I, as a husband, would have had access to books like The Good Girl's Guide and The Good Guy's Guide a long time ago. Have been following the blog for about half a year, so many of the concepts have also been covered in blog posts and podcasts, but the book is a great source to get a well-rounded and well-presented format. Sheila and her team have debunked and challenged a lot of what has been common knowledge out there (obligation sex message, frequency need for men, etc.). Word of advice would be to ensure you are building the sexual element in your marriage positively from the start. Get to the root of issues quickly, and learn to communicate and talk openly about sex (especially challenges), and confront them as a team with the goal of having sex be connective, beautiful, exclusive, and life-giving to the relationship. These series of books can help you do that, and can save you a lot of grief and pain around the subject of sex. Highly recommend this book.

Reviewer: Kevin Ronald
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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Review: What an amazing resource! The good Girls Guide to Great Sex covers everything I wish I had been told before we got married many years ago. This information could have saved us much frustration and heartache. Sheila clearly explains how sex is really meant to be, mutual, intimate and pleasurable. (A teaching that is sorely missing in evangelical circles.)So much great content! The sexual response cycle is not something I had read in a book before. Yes, we all know that men and woman are different (and often books hyper focus on that and make things worse!). Sheila explains the different types of libidos and how these differences work out practically when it comes to sex and how our bodies respond. And tells us what we can do to make them work together wonderfully!This book is a must read for every engaged or young (and not so young) married couples! It will be my new go to gift for bridal showers. I can't recommend it enough!

Reviewer: Clara
Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
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Review: If you are engaged or newly married, read this book!! It is a refreshingly accurate Christian-based sex book that covers a variety of topics; from the basics of sex, to dealing with sexual issues in your relationship, to understanding yourself and your spouse. I'm recommending this book to all my engaged and married friends!